Us. Simply.

Mom to Two.

By whattheharry - 1:58 PM

I am crippled with guilt on most days because I don’t feel like I spend enough time with the boys. The crippling gets worse when the majority of my time is dealing with Max, and Theo is just an innocent bystander getting whatever is left over.

I had no idea it was going to be like this, parenting more than one child. I have absolutely no regrets of having each of the boys, I just wasn’t clued in on this part, the balance. I am still struggling on how to keep the balance between the two. I am exhausted from trying.

I am third of four children, and when I look back I don’t ever recall being short on time or love from my mother. Though she was busy, working and then tending to four kids somehow she was always there. Probably because by the time I came around she had the balance working for her.

I then read this on Soulemama’s blog today:

Unlike her oldest brother, she doesn't have years of time alone with us. She has one day a week, she has bedtimes, she has moments here and moments there. It is quite different.

How true. I had two years of just Max and me. Now its been one whole year with Max, Theo and I and I have to say that Theo is probably the happier baby because he has not only me but this awesome big brother. He has someone to entertain him with fun stuff such as throwing a ball around the room (when he shouldnt be), jumping on the bed (when he shouldnt be), sharing lollipops (see where I am going with this?), and so on. Max never had that. Instead he had a paranoid first time mom.

So I worry I dont spend enough time with both of them, let alone any time at all with Theo. However I dont think Theo is minding one bit that 'our' time is small. He seems to be quite happy hanging out with his brother.

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Sunday Craft.

By whattheharry - 7:55 PM

(I am still officially unplugged for the summer, but I thought I'd share our new weekly Sunday Craft. Each week we will try something new. This will also force me to sit down and spend quality time with them.)

Melting Crayons.

One day this week Max discovered some crayons we left in the car in a baggie. They had melted together. He was fascinated by it. Today, when sensing some boredom coming on since we unplugged for the weekend (very little to no TV, electronics) I thought why not make our own melted crayons to use.

So I pulled out our crayon box. Max picked out the crayons. We put them in the mini-donut pan and I googled a recipe on how-to. Voila!

Max pushed the kitchen chair to the counter to watch the crayons cool when I pulled them out of the oven. He was so excited to use them. He even said, 'Thank You Mommy' once they were cooled and I popped them out of the pan. Theo was exited to use them as well.

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Unplugged.

By whattheharry - 7:26 AM

So I am making an executive mommy decision. I am going to unplug for the summer. The last few weeks have been busy with a trip to visit my sister Sharon in Denver, Max's birthday, new appliances being delivered, Teacher Appreciation Week parent committee duties, a garage sale and Theo's first birthday. Let's not forget the everyday stuff too - laundry, dishes, bedtime, baths, me time.

Plus I really want to revamp the look of this place. And I need help for that, so I am going to take the time and think about what I want it to be and hopefully over the summer I can make it happen.

I'll leave you with what we'll be doing while we are gone...spending time together, enjoying the summer the way it should be. Outside.

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I have a Stinker.

By whattheharry - 7:43 AM

Check out these photos I took last night of 'Smoothie Time'. Specifically Theo. This kid cracks me up. I think the pictures say it all. No need for further explanation. Stinker.

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Shall We Dance?

By whattheharry - 7:00 AM

We met the nicest family at the library storytime we attend on Tuesday nights. I am not a huge believer in the universe having a hand in things happening, but sometimes when I am in the thick of something I just get a feeling it was meant to be. I think we were meant to be friends with this family.

We went to the zoo on Sunday as it was gorgeous outside. Jenny (mom), Kelly (dad) and Molleigh. I can safely say we all had a blast. Even Max and Molleigh decided to dance for us.

They are just too cute together.

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My Niece Rocks, and plants.

By whattheharry - 7:27 AM

I saw this idea on a blog I found but I cannot remember which one. It was probably a hop from a hop from a hop of a website. Anyway, I thought it was a good ‘Max and Me’ project. I know Max has done some planting in school and I’ve always received feedback from the teachers that he really enjoyed it. So here we embarked on our project. However, my niece Sara was over and she basically did it for me while I did laundry, dishes, made lunch, took care of Theo. Sara, you rock! We love you.

(dont you love that my finger looks like my arm in this picture???)

Now its up to Mother Nature to see if we'll be able to enjoy Cucumbers, Summer Squash, Basil and Watermelon. (probably doesnt help I left them outside last night so when I brought them inside today they were SOAKED! oh well.)

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Easter.

By whattheharry - 8:43 AM

(Quite possibly the best picture I could get of the two of them since Theo's birth. I am absolutely 100% crazy about these two boys. I suffer from tremendous guilt not having enough time in the day to spend more time than I do with them. But it is what it is, I am a working parent. One thing is for sure, they will never question my love for them.)